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A caregiver must rigorously establish their Adulthood. They must address their origins issues and
deal effectively with their Adult-compromising behaviors. Unmet developmental needs must be
addressed and satisfied. The last thing a child needs is a caregiver who is still spending time and
precious energy trying to prove to themselves they are significant! Not only will the grown-up
prioritize their needs above the child's, but a needy infant will make the caregiver feel even less
adequate and therefore less significant.
A caregiver must be knowledgeable regarding human development.
A caregiver's house must be stripped down so the child's natural curiosity can be
constructively uninhibited.
The caregiver must be alert to any behaviors that indicate there is a physiological deterrent
to the child's ability to learn wholesomely.
The caregiver must develop natural, predictable, daily routines.
Household routines must be organized around the needs of the child.
The caregiver must make every effort to anticipate the child's needs.
The caregiver must commit "gobs" of time to interacting with and observing the child.
Every child is a unique individual, so the caregiver should never compare the child with any
other child or with some idealized child concept.
When in doubt, trust the child.
None of this is possible as long as the caregiver is attempting to subsidize their significance. Within the free-will mindset, significance is not a given. One must struggle and strive to achieve the least smidgeon of personal significance. Free-will's proliferation of fear makes significance a desire forever on a free-will horizon. One never conquers the horizon. Free-will horizons are forever out of reach. Those who appear to achieve significance by reaching what the common folk view as an horizon, are bewildered by the insubstantial nature of what they have achieved. Life appears to be just so much emptiness. Free-will damns the individual to life consuming insignificance.
Fear of insignificance taints so much of what we do. A teenager's car or motorcycle subsidizes their significance. The whole boyfriend, girlfriend, thing is a desperate search for some other person who will subsidize the individual's sense of lost significance. That's why breakups hurt so much. If the person who made you feel significant no longer behaves like your are significant, then you must no longer be significant! The individual is thrown back into the boiling caldron of insignificance. Some boys and some girls go through sexual partners like a house of fire because the conquest provides a feeling of significance. The uncertainty of relationship is a threat to the individual's sense of significance, so they go from one conquest to another. Posh country clubs and black tie resteraunts scream significance! Why pay a hundred dollars more for something you could buy at Walmart? Why drive a gas guzzling Cadillac? Why put the price of three humble houses into a Rolls Royce? Why is the concept of rich and famous such a draw? The early developmental phantom of insignificance gorges on what our intuitive free-will social mindset produces by the mega-ton! Fear.
On the contrary, a determined-universe establishes the individual's significance with the mere fact the individual exists. Existence is proof of significance. Poof! Free-will's incapacitating fears are vaporized with the reality of existence. Nobody exists a little more, or a little less. It seems too simple, doesn't it? Life does not need to be so complicated. Our brain tends to make it so. Our brain is an evolutionary experiment which has not yet established it deserves to exist into the future. It tends to be an awkward mass to control. If we are unable to master it, our experimental brain will drive us over the brink. I believe the KISS principle may apply: Keep it simple stupid. We are much too impressed with ourselves!
Mankind has much to learn. The first hurdle will be acknowledging that the intuitive free-will social mindset has mutilated our ability to raise and educate our children. Once we have stepped through this portal into our determined-universe, the future is wide open and our long overdue discoveries will be fast and furious.
Well, eleven pages and we haven't even mentioned public education! Here goes!
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