Non-exhaustive list of Self, or Adult-Compromising Behaviors and Attitudes:
	fear                                                              continuous weeping patterns anger                                                            screaming    fury                                                              a sense of superiority conflict avoidance                                          a fear of angering the other person verbal abuse                                                  blaming withdrawal                                                    resentment assumptive behavior                                       passive aggressive behavior sickness                                                        hysteria stress                                                            a sense of inferiority    rage                                                              physiological reactions such as discomfort                                                     increased heart rate, dizziness, vague unfocused pressure                               perspiration, or teeth grinding sleeplessness                                                  lying; verbally and living a lie shame                                                           guilt haughtiness                                                   self-righteousness threats                                                          suicidal thoughts depression                                                     obsessive touching and holding comparing                                                     desperation helplessness                                                   frustration annoyance                                                     hopelessness compulsion to focus on another                       inability to keep a focus on your Self a feeling that I'm right and they're wrong          corrosive language covert actions                                                inability to receive affection compulsive behaviors                                     procrastination anti-social behaviors                                       avoidance behaviors fear of failure                                                 rigidity pride                                                             intimidating others or feeling intimidated ridiculing others or feeling ridiculed                  compulsive socializing inability to apologize                                       adultery, promiscuity,  masturbation inability to ask for forgiveness                         sneakiness, covert activity viewing pornography                                      a sense of martyrdom absorbing the consequences for the                 hate          actions of another                                  "getting over" instead of "dealing with" people pleasing activities                                 depletion of your health for the perceived allowing others to suffer as a result of                     health of others          your unwillingness to deal with                arrogance          the pain in your past                               going through other people's trash calling and hanging up when the other              unwillingness to communicate          person answers                                      divorce breaking of promises, vows, oaths                   primary physical violence shyness                                                         amassing of wealth an unwillingness to work                                work-a-holism bigotry                                                          oppressive behaviors gossip                                                           projecting guiding behaviors on the premise of                 co-dependency            omniscient capabilities                          compromising the relationships of others self-aggrandizement                                        feelings that someone else should care for you grudges                                                         addictive behaviors life threatening behaviors, taking                      infidelity             unnecessary risks                                obsessive buying hoarding                                                        defensiveness loneliness                                                       meanness impatience                                                     bigotry discrimination                                                 abuse neglect: self, spousal, familial                           obsessive activity or the inability to be still making another responsible for your                 condemnation             happiness, joy, peace, security              assuming responsibility for another person’s controlling                                                              happiness, joy, peace, security inconsiderate behavior                                     compulsive behaviors: biting fingernails, vengeance, retribution, punishment                   chewing your cheeks, coffee drinking accusations not investigated for                        bullying            authenticity                                          materialism
		These behaviors indicate a diminished sense of personal significance and thus compromise a grown-up's ability to function as an authentic Adult. Consequently, relationships lack authenticity and assume surrealistic characteristics.  However, since these behaviours are universally pervasive, surrealism is accepted as real; inauthentic social interaction is accepted as authentic; a child's playground is accepted as an Adult world.
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